At this point, it’s not a surprise.
I’ll spare details, but I have two incidents to share for message purposes.
I was 15 when I was followed on my way home from soccer practice.
Don’t walk alone. And if you must walk alone, be prepared. Pepper spray. Cell phone (don’t look down at it, since it distracts you from your surroundings, but have it at the ready). When I had to take the Greyhound from Virginia to Idaho, Vladimir gave me a knife, which I kept in my pocket 24/7. After what happened, when I’d walk home from rehearsals in college, I’d call someone and talk on the phone the whole way there.
I was 14 when I was assaulted by a girl in my P.E. class.
It’s not just boys assaulting girls out here (though it’s still a problem). Girls can assault girls. Boys can assault boys. Girls can assault boys. It can go any which way, but for some reason anything beyond boys assaulting girls is almost swept under the rug. That’s why when it happened to me, I was called a liar and that girls can’t assault other girls.
Bullshit. Yes, they can. Support your friend no matter who they say did it.
Those are two moments.
I wish nothing but safety for everyone.